Calvin

Being a great partner isn't measured by how much you do. It isn't about how much you give of yourself; day in and day out. You're not going to be more fun to be around by giving every ounce of your energy to another while ignoring your own needs. Being a great partner requires a high degree of self-care. To be a great partner to another, you'll be asked to redirect your energy inwards. At times, they will trigger and annoy you. In those moments you'll be challenged to look in the mirror before pointing out their faults. You will be called to look at what you're doing rather than what they aren't. Whenever we focus too much on the other, we're avoiding ourselves. We're angry, in part because we're not taking care of ourselves. Pent up frustration and resentment spills over in the worst possible time because we've been giving and giving, all the while; neglecting our own needs. What could possibly be behind the over-doing it in the first place? Many of us carry around a belief that we have to do, to be loved. That we're not enough all on our own, so we over compensate even though it makes us worse, not better. The relationships that last the longest consist of two people with their own aspirations and dreams in life. There's the you, the me, and the we. It's interdependence not co-dependence. They're the ones based on trust, ownership of the shadow, acknowledgment of the inner-child.

Leão

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1.8 m

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